"Well done, my beloved. Well done. You competed your sacred contract. You completed your circle of loving him. Now go love you. Love you better than you ever have." Wow! What a gift from the Spirit! May this deep knowledge of God's love for you sustain you and accompany you in the days ahead.🙏 And thank you so much for the gift of your writing!
I got goose bumps while reading this. On one hand, I am so sad for you because I know how devastating it is to go through a divorce, especially one of such long duration. On the other hand, you have a remarkable capacity to embrace whatever comes your way and somehow find your way to JOY. I don't know if you even realize how inspirational you are to other hurting souls. It can be so easy to give up. When I read your words; however, I am inspired to do better. It doesn't always last. Maybe a couple of days. That is why what you do is so important. I need these pick me ups, these reminders that life is worth living. So thank you very much for being you and for your vulnerability. God Bless.
I am so sorry. I know that feeling of "not being enough" well. I grew up with it and survived 2 long term relationships with that feeling. I have learned so much as I get older and realize it wasn't me at all!! I was enough. The hurt will diminish as you go out into the world-I promise.
You have my undying support and admiration. It's his loss and your gain. Think of a future of not having to compromise and making your own choices. ❤️🩹
I can relate so much to this. Not from losing someone in a divorce, but in death. I've lived through two great losses that are so similar, and yet so very different. The loss of a daughter, then a husband within 6 months. And yes, during the process of watching them leave you, bit by bit (cancer, sepsis in each case) you do just about run out of tears... But there lies a sense of peace knowing you did everything you possibly could through the circumstances. And in the end, all there is ever left is you. So you better love that person with your whole heart. And learn that you ARE enough. That just living your life, and loving your family and friends that are still there for you - oh, yes, definitely enough. Your heart goes on. As it should. There are still blessings to behold.
Beautiful. How wonderful that you share your insights and inspirations - you deserve a happy ending to this story and are taking control of creating it. I am so grateful for you.
As my adult son said to me when I was feeling blue at the dissolution of my 46-year marriage, “Mom, maybe this is God’s gift to you.” That profound statement has buoyed me to the point I now thank God for this new stage of life in my 70’s. So I offer this to you. “Regina, maybe this is God’s gift to you!”
I am in tears for the beautiful message you’ve sent to us all. ❤️ Though it’s not the exact path you chose all those years ago, I feel certain you will find it to be the right path. ❤️
I find it hard to believe that during the last 29 years, 20 years,15 years, 5 years, 2 years, the last 5 months, 5 weeks . .that your NOW-EX-Husband couldn't, didn't find the time, guts or decency to explain how he FELT about the differences he was experiencing between his values & yours. He probably kept his feelings to himself, to appear "decent" until he "announced", " . . OH, yeah, I'm moving out tomorrow. " That kind of passive-aggressive "Decency" is vile because I've had that done to me. These "passive-agressives" judge, jury & decide on your relationship without ever giving you the respect to explain, argue with or learn from each other. They made the decision long ago not to work on their relationship. That's their (his) shame, NOT yours!
Recommended reading that enhances Regina Brett by Rabbi Harold Kushner: How Good Do We Have to Be: A New Understanding of Guilt and Forgiveness. When All You've Ever Wanted Isn't Enough: The Search for a Life That Matters. Nine Essential Things I've Learned About Life. When Bad Things Happen To Good People. Overcoming Life's Disappointments !
Raw and beautiful, dear friend. You deserve better, and you are creating the space for it to find you.
Thanks for all your love and support.
"Well done, my beloved. Well done. You competed your sacred contract. You completed your circle of loving him. Now go love you. Love you better than you ever have." Wow! What a gift from the Spirit! May this deep knowledge of God's love for you sustain you and accompany you in the days ahead.🙏 And thank you so much for the gift of your writing!
How kind of you.
I got goose bumps while reading this. On one hand, I am so sad for you because I know how devastating it is to go through a divorce, especially one of such long duration. On the other hand, you have a remarkable capacity to embrace whatever comes your way and somehow find your way to JOY. I don't know if you even realize how inspirational you are to other hurting souls. It can be so easy to give up. When I read your words; however, I am inspired to do better. It doesn't always last. Maybe a couple of days. That is why what you do is so important. I need these pick me ups, these reminders that life is worth living. So thank you very much for being you and for your vulnerability. God Bless.
Thanks for such encouraging words.
I am so sorry. I know that feeling of "not being enough" well. I grew up with it and survived 2 long term relationships with that feeling. I have learned so much as I get older and realize it wasn't me at all!! I was enough. The hurt will diminish as you go out into the world-I promise.
Thanks, and I hope you know you were born worthy, too!
You have my undying support and admiration. It's his loss and your gain. Think of a future of not having to compromise and making your own choices. ❤️🩹
That future sounds great!
Bless you, Regina, for all the love you have inside that you give out so beautifully and freely. It is not in vain. Thank you.
You got this are my inspiration! I know you got this!
I love myself because of reading your books. I am a survivor of breast cancer & CLL
and enjoy every day of my life.
Glad you are still here!
Beautiful, Regina💖
Shoulders back. Eyes forward. We are women. We are strong.
Now and always May peace be with you. 💜
I can relate so much to this. Not from losing someone in a divorce, but in death. I've lived through two great losses that are so similar, and yet so very different. The loss of a daughter, then a husband within 6 months. And yes, during the process of watching them leave you, bit by bit (cancer, sepsis in each case) you do just about run out of tears... But there lies a sense of peace knowing you did everything you possibly could through the circumstances. And in the end, all there is ever left is you. So you better love that person with your whole heart. And learn that you ARE enough. That just living your life, and loving your family and friends that are still there for you - oh, yes, definitely enough. Your heart goes on. As it should. There are still blessings to behold.
I am so sorry for both of your losses. That is so much for a heart to handle. I hope you are held up by the love of many.
Beautiful. How wonderful that you share your insights and inspirations - you deserve a happy ending to this story and are taking control of creating it. I am so grateful for you.
I'm grateful for you!
As my adult son said to me when I was feeling blue at the dissolution of my 46-year marriage, “Mom, maybe this is God’s gift to you.” That profound statement has buoyed me to the point I now thank God for this new stage of life in my 70’s. So I offer this to you. “Regina, maybe this is God’s gift to you!”
Smart son!
I am in tears for the beautiful message you’ve sent to us all. ❤️ Though it’s not the exact path you chose all those years ago, I feel certain you will find it to be the right path. ❤️
I find it hard to believe that during the last 29 years, 20 years,15 years, 5 years, 2 years, the last 5 months, 5 weeks . .that your NOW-EX-Husband couldn't, didn't find the time, guts or decency to explain how he FELT about the differences he was experiencing between his values & yours. He probably kept his feelings to himself, to appear "decent" until he "announced", " . . OH, yeah, I'm moving out tomorrow. " That kind of passive-aggressive "Decency" is vile because I've had that done to me. These "passive-agressives" judge, jury & decide on your relationship without ever giving you the respect to explain, argue with or learn from each other. They made the decision long ago not to work on their relationship. That's their (his) shame, NOT yours!
His loss for sure!
Recommended reading that enhances Regina Brett by Rabbi Harold Kushner: How Good Do We Have to Be: A New Understanding of Guilt and Forgiveness. When All You've Ever Wanted Isn't Enough: The Search for a Life That Matters. Nine Essential Things I've Learned About Life. When Bad Things Happen To Good People. Overcoming Life's Disappointments !
I'll give them a try. Thanks!